Doctors say we should talk to ourselves

(KYMA, KECY/CNN) - What do you tell yourself when someone gives you a compliment?

Or when you make a mistake?

The way we talk to ourselves can make a big difference in growth and mental health.

A psychologist and professor at the university of Michigan says the inner voice is a multipurpose tool.

But can become harsh, self-critical and unhelpful.

He suggests that healthy self-talk is crucial to our growth by helping us focus our attention, rehearse for difficult situations, understand our lives better and shape our identity.